According to Eric Berne (transactional analysis) and more specifically Claude Steiner, most people tend to live their lives according to a life script. In very short words a script is like a cannon or a set of roles that a person has been taught unconsciously or has otherwise learned. Winner and looser are scripts or ways to live, and in my opinion they are almost THE SAME THING.
Losers win too
The main difference between winner and loser behavior is when do they win and when do they lose. Both types of people can be very competitive and are constantly exposed to win - lose situations. Job interviews, competitions, auditions, examinations; these are some examples of such situations.
The problem with losers is that when they win, they lose. Yes, losers win too, but somehow they arrange things in such an order that if they actually win a competitive situation, they will lose something else. And in the other hand when they lose, they have arranged things (maybe just in their minds) in order to win something else too. So they keep losing, because in their heads they are winning, and they don't want to win because they will lose anyway...
[I should provide some examples to make things clearer.]
Resuming, losers:
- when they win, they lose
- when they lose, they win
What about winners?
This is going to get confusing. Winners win when they lose! They are wise enough to see where they can win or learn something when they lose. Secret: winners lose a lot. They lose many more times than when they actually win, but this serves them as training to win when it counts. In the end they know how to win and they don't lose anything when winning. THAT'S THE DIFFERENCE.
So winners:
- they win when they lose (not the same as losers' when they lose, they win)
- when they win they just win
Becoming a Winner
The good news is that if you're a looser, you're just one step from becoming a winner. The main reason why losers end up losing always is that they are unrealistic in their goals while winners are very realistic and practical.
Losers have a fantasy about what they will win that supersedes the real price.
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Me gusto mucho lo que escribiste, en verdad. Entre a esta pagina buscando algunas coss sobre programacion, pero en serio que es my bueno lo que escribiste, sin darle muchas vueltas al asunto y directo. Seguire visitando tu blog. Saludos desde Sonora.
ReplyDeleteGracias! Oh por Dios alguien leyo mi idea es como un sueño jaja. Ok prometo acabar el ensayo pronto :)
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